FR: Recorded Day Game and Solo Club Game

I did 3 direct day game approaches today and about 7 club game sets.

Day game was very informative. I was with Just/Us. Although I didn't do any video, I did record my two longer sets with a hidden microphone and got a world of feedback. OK, so I quite literally cringed when I heard myself for the first time in-set. Apparently...

1. I sound VERY GAY when opening. After talking for a while though, I revert back to normal talking voice. It is pretty funny because you can almost hear the progression back into heterosexual tonality.
2. I talk WAY too fast in the beginning. It makes me sound hyper and nervous.
3. I talk too fast in general in sets, period.
4. I say "like" way too much, although this is more of a bad speech pattern than anything.
5. TOO high-energy. I think I need to scale back the energy level a bit especially in day game. My ideal should be relaxed, social, and happy, instead of hyper. Energetic is okay, spastic is not.

No wonder the direct day game isn't working as well as it should be! I need to calm the fuck down! If I were a girl and I had a guy come up to me the same way as I recorded myself going up to them, I wouldn't like me either. (Wtf.) Despite this, I still had two sets that went pretty well.

The opener I used today was "Hey, this is pretty random, but I have a rule that whenever I see cute girl(s) I have to talk to her(them). So hi! I'm Acuity..." I like that opener because 1. It's true and extremely honest, 2. it's scalable to groups of girls. I think this is going to be my new default day game opener. To switch things up I'll use the "Hey, I know this is random, but you're pretty cute and I had to come see what you're like" opener on girls who are alone or hired guns working in stores.

In the first set I willingly ejected after 5 minutes because the girl wasn't as cute as I thought she was. It was good warmup. The second approach was a moving 1-set and a major blowout - she probably had some serious shit going on at the time, haha! Me and Just/Us then saw this two-set of CRAZY FINE girls. I HAD to talk to them... Because I have this thing right now with honesty in sarging (I'm sure it'll pass ;) ) I was going to test out just how brutally honesty I could be by saying something like "Okay so I just saw you two from over there and I had to come talk to you because you're both REALLY fucking hot. (Are you nice too? Cold read bla bla you both look like bad girls, shit on their faces actually I don't know if I could hang out with you guys, etc)." So I tried to catch up by running after them but they elude me by sneakily ducking into an escalator. Lame!!

The third set was very interesting. Although after hearing myself I swore I sounded like I only had one testicle and slowly grew another one, the conversation itself was great. Zero awkward silences, good vibe, IOIs, she was asking lots of questions and talking a lot, etc. Even though I got literally every single mini cold read wrong. Oh yeah, good body language and GREAT eye contact - I'm getting so much better at this. You can just feel the sparks fly with good eye contact. It lasted like 15 minutes. I attempted to number close but she didn't go for it, which really stymied me at first until I heard the audio. (Yes, I really sound that bad.) I wonder what the girls think when I have non-needy body language, good eye contact, use push/pull, but sound like a fucking queen and then try to get their number? Talk about sending mixed signals, haha!

I'm going to listen over the recordings again tonight when I get home to find out anywhere else that I went wrong. and will probably do some more recorded day game today as well. I need to work on rooting the number so I have a reason to ask and also to reduce flakes.

I considered posting the audio footage up here but decided against it so homosexual men don't masturbate to my effeminate voice. If you want to hear how gay I sounded today either come wing me or I can show you the audio in person.

As for night game, it was honestly hard getting back into the vibe after a few days of not doing any sets so I guess my club game reflected that. I had an unusual amount of approach anxiety in the club and was definitely not in the zone. Although I tried hard to break out of my funk in the club several times I was ultimately unsuccessful. It re-enforced the importance of getting into state early on in the night instead of trying to playing it slow and taking it easy. I also want to work on being more outcome-independent and relaxed instead of being tense and reaction-seeking.

I think the bad night was caused by a combination of:
1. First time solo gaming in about 3 weeks.
2. Increased expectations and standards for myself, thus causing myself to freak out when unexpected approach anxiety hits
3. Inability to get in-state as easily because my comfort zone has expanded

No sweat, tonight and tomorrow night will be better for sure. I just gotta remember to be outcome independent, get into a social state early by doing 3 warm up sets ASAP, and have fun no matter what happens.

I'm also forgetting a lot of attraction stuff in both day game and night game. The ones I'm making use of right now are:
1. Extreme ballsiness, which usually gets me good initial reactions but won't be able to carry the interaction
2. My looks, which are beautiful
3. Actually, thinking about it, that's pretty much it. I may do a little push pull here and there but nothing to sneeze at.

The ones that I gotta remember to use:
1. Hardcore qualification questions after hook point. BE THE PRIZE.
2. More hardcore push-pull. Emotional ride, anyone?
3. Just be the motherfucking badass. Don't be reaction seeking and do what you want not what you think will get you the girl. If you do anything with authority people will usually accept it. Basically take initial ballsiness, mix it with outcome independence and a rock-solid frame, and extend it throughout the entire interaction.

Let's see how tonight pans out. I still don't know what I'm going to be doing but I'll figure it out!


Goals for this weekend:

Day Game:
3/20 direct approaches
0/3 direct numbers

Night Game:
7/50 direct approaches
0/5 direct numbers
0/1 makeout

Weekly Analysis

Things I'm doing right:
1. Significantly decreased approach anxiety and higher level of confidence
2. More ballsiness
3. High energy, decent body language, good vibe upon approach
4. Decently outcome independent.

To improve this week:
1. Isolating/escalating after initial set and staying in-set for a longer time.
2. More attraction - push/pull and disqualification after initial hook.
3. Comfort vibing in isolation -> Club makeouts?

Focuses this week:
1. Night game - more attraction and transition to comfort.
2. Day game - More practice doing direct day game.

For the coming weekend my goals are:
- 20 day game sets with direct openers, 3 day game direct numbers
- 50 night game sets, 1 night game k-close, 5 solid night game isolates/number-closes

Tonight I have prior arrangements so I won't be able to go out and do day game as planned. Thursday (tomorrow) I'm going to make up for it with doing day game until it's time for Purgatory. I'll be using the audio recorder and, if I go with a wing, video camera. Friday night will be a generic club night with non-community friends. I need to figure out what's good on Friday nights.

Saturday night will be another club night. I already know what's going down on Saturday night so I'm all set. I'll also be doing day game on Saturday. Sunday will be another day game day. Between those three day game sessions I should have 20 day game sets under my belt and some pretty good audio/video for analysis.

Reading Books

I'm going to read one (non-community) book a week. If this becomes too much to keep up I will scale back to 1 book every two weeks. I used to be a voracious reader but in recent years I've seriously neglected reading for some reason.

The most successful people I know read a lot of books. I think it's not just what the book contains that's beneficial, it's the unique worldview and open mind that you get when constantly being exposed to new ideas and new thoughts. Although I may read a few fiction classics, I will mostly focus on non-fiction works. If I feel strongly about a book I may post about it.

I've always wanted to read Ayn Rand so I've already ordered The Fountainhead and Atlas Shrugged from Amazon, they get here on Thursday. I'll start off with The Fountainhead and next week I'll do Atlas Shrugged. In the future I will get to Tim Ferris's 4-hour Workweek, Richard Dawkins's Selfish Gene and The God Delusion, Obama's Audacity of Hope, and some other books that I've heard great things about. Clinton? Krishnamurti? The Bible? I'm also going to reread Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill and Rich Dad Poor Dad by that Asian dude Kiyosaki. Maybe even some community classics like Art of Seduction, Red Queen, and Sperm Wars if I am so inclined. Oh, and also books about online marketing, business, and entrepreneurship of course. Any good suggestions on those?

I am also going to be reading some textbooks. That's right. I'm not in college anymore so I'm at a huge disadvantage when it comes to professional education, but I'll be damned if everyone's gonna be going around the business world talking about things I don't understand. The main things I'll focus on first is accounting because I'll need to know that for my job soon. I think I still have my old UT accounting book, I'll dig it up and start cracking.

I already am pretty strapped for time, but I think a lot of my time is actually being wasted instead of used effectively. For example, when I get home sometimes I just put on the earphones and get on AIM. Hours can sometimes pass this way. Although it's not usually as bad on the weekdays, on weekends I tend to slack off a LOT - just sitting upstairs playing random flash games or listening to music, chatting on IM, and checking Facebook or Dallas Lair literally every 30 seconds. I might as well sit there, listen to music, and open up a book.

Every Monday/Tuesday, when I write my weekly progress report to myself, I'll also include whether I've read my book for the week and a few short thoughts on it to keep myself accountable.


EDIT: Going to keep a list here of books I'm interested in eventually reading so I don't forget any.

~ Losing My Virginity - Sir Richard Branson
~ How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
~ The Definitive Book of body Language - Allan and Barbara Pease
~ A Confederacy of Dunces - John Toole
~ The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida
~ Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets To Success, One Relationship at a Time - Keith Ferrazzi
~ Freakonomics - Levitt/Dubner
~ Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman
~ Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell
~ Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
~ Sex God Method - Rob Bell
~ My Secret Garden - Nancy Friday
~ Choke - Chuck Palahniuk
~ Fight Club - Chuck Palahniuk